Aug 27, · I jst met this girl bt she happened to be my younger sister's friend and i feel very much attracted to her.I like her and she's got some of the qualities i. Jun 09, · Title should say "My best friend is banging my sister" OP should say "I hope he uses a My kinda ok friend is dating your sister too Triced. Dating step sister quality. Been roller coaster ride for me my sister is dating my friend terms of gender whom they encounter in seeking to understand your experience.
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Discussion in ' Christian Advice ' started by needAdvice1 , Aug 30, We hope to see you as a part of our community soon and God Bless! Aug 30, 1. I'm a senior in college and my closest friend has started to get involved with my freshman sister. It sounds good as I would rather have a close friend date her than a random guy but here is the problem: I know his past better that anyone.
We keep accountability with each other and I know that he had a lot of sex in high school with his girlfriend. He has changed since then and says that it is the darkest secret he has. My sister is a very pure Christian who knows nothing about his past and just thinks he has always been a great Christian guy. She is pretty crazy about him.
He came to me tonight basically asking if it was okay for him to date her. My hands are tied. I told him it is okay as long as hes careful and doesn't hurt her.
He agreed and said hes never felt this way about a girl. What do I do? Should I tell him that he needs to tell her about his past? Im in a terrible situation. Aug 30, 2. What a terrible situation! Why don't you email her and share with her all the details! I'm sure she will be waiting to hear from you.
Because it gives the opportunity for that one to really have the chance to think about it! I'm sure you would not want to see the tears anyhow! I think she needs to know all about it. Aug 30, 3. She may read this forum. Hope it works out for you. Aug 30, 4. I'm going to turn on the hair dryer! Aug 30, 5. Aug 31, 6. Aug 31, 7. Hey NeedAdvice1 I would tell my sister.
Just think how it would damage your relationship with your sister if she finds out you knew the truth and never warned her. Even if she rejects your warning, it wouldn't cause damage to your relationship later. At least then, she would trust you more in future - whatever happens. Aug 31, 8. Why don't you voice your dilemna to your friend? If he's any friend at all he'll understand and work with you toward a solution, not against you.
Aug 31, 9. The first step would be to ask your friend to fully disclose his past to your sister. If he is dating her, he should be looking forward to marriage. Otherwise, what's the point? So with this in mind, he should be truthful of his past, just as he would want her to be truthful of her past. If he refuses to do this, then he isn't someone you would want to be dating your sister. Sep 2, I would point out that, though he should eventually tell her, it's not the sort of thing you should expect him to come out with on the first date.
If he's pursuing her honorably with marriage in mind - you should ask him if he is and beat him up if he isn't - he should progress through roughly four stages: Step 1 is not the time to expect him to come clean about his past.
It's probably something she needs to know before her part of step 3. It's definitely something she needs to know before they're married. I agree with the ones who have counseled that you talk to the friend first. The very best thing you can do is tell your friend your concerns about his past and how you feel about your sister's right to know.
See what he says first. He may be planning to tell her without you knowing If you go to the sister, under this situation, you're not giving your friend a chance to deal with her about it on his terms, which will be a very important first step for them both if they are going to move toward marriage one day. If your friend has repented, it's really not your place to make him confess to your sister his past, revelation of one's past comes gradually in a relationship. They need to spend some time together and see, who knows, they might find one like vanilla and the other chocolate and decide not to continue.
Did you tell your friend to get checked for things like sexually transmitted diseases before this, or is a past sexual history only becoming a concern when now it's close to home? In any case, I would think, as a Christian, you would recognize that one's past cannot be changed and indeed it's unChristian to hold the past over someone.
It would be quite a different thing if he hadn't changed. If somehow this guy wasn't suitable to date your sister, then he probably shouldn't have been your best friend.
Originally Posted by jenniferkat What a terrible situation! I have read many replies here. The one I did not see was that perhaps you might discuss this fact with your friend and tell him you feel your sister should know about his past.
Perhaps he should ne the one to tell your sister, this way your friend won't get angry that you "spilled" his past, and your sister, as someone mentioned won't get mad you knew and didn't tell her.
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I've never been in this situation before. My "little" sister and her friends are now in their mids, and one of her friends is exactly the kind of woman I'm looking for. Also, we're both incredibly attracted to each other after hanging out a few times in gatherings with my 'sis and her boyfriend there , and I always catch this girl looking at me, and once we were all squished on a sofa and she curled up with her head on my chest and sighed when I put my arm around her. She gave me her , and hugs me goodbye when we part.
Then I started to wonder about the pros and cons of dating this girl, and haven't made any more moves. Damn, she's smart and funny and beautiful, but she's been my sister's best friend for years!
What do you think? Yes, I can see how this would classify as a dilemma, but if you really think she's everything, then you really don't have to be so moral about all of this, and let's face it, what did rational behavior ever bring to romance?!? Just go for it! I think you should go for it! I dated my brother's best friend before, and I think as long as you have your sibling's consent it's okay. Whatever you do, don't ditch your sister for her best friend.
And know that if you date her friend, she has full permission to date yours too: You deffo need to ask ur sister 1st, Two of my friends were best friends with eachother, and one of them started going out with the other ones older brother, they were secretive and didn't want any1 to know.
Lets just say, they are not best friends any more First, ask your sister. If she wants you happy, she really wouldn't mind who it is you decide to date. The good thing about your situation, you don't have to worry about the awkward phases of trying to make your sister and girlfriend getting along, if you do get together that is. As long as you have consent, go for it with no regrets, just let this girl know your feelings, and if it's the wrong thing to make a move, let her know you don't want to go behind your sister's back.
If she doesn't mind by all means GO FOR IT! I think this is a good idea if you really like her and feel she is the right person for you. Ok so I'm a girl and I like my best friends brother, he's always looking at me, and flirting with me He's incredibly cute, funny, and smart, but he's dating someone The only reason he's dating her is because he's a caring person and she threatened to kill herself if he didn't.
I don't know what to do, do I wait for him to break up with her and just be a friend right now or do I go for it. My best friend has no idea. Also he's a sophomore and I'm a freshman in high school We're a year apart. All I can think about is him. Is this just a crush or am I in love.. I can't sleep thinking about all of this. Also close this question.
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