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Like marriage , divorce in the United States is under the jurisdiction of state governments , not the federal government. Divorce or "dissolution of marriage" is a legal process in which a judge or other authority dissolves the bonds of matrimony existing between two persons, thus restoring them to the status of being single and permitting them to marry other individuals. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support , child custody , child support , distribution of property and division of debt, though these matters are usually only ancillary or consequential to the dissolution of the marriage.
In all but one state, and even in that state in most cases, a divorce must be certified by a court of law to become effective. The terms of the divorce are usually determined by the court, though they may take into account prenuptial or postnuptial agreements , or simply ratify terms that the spouses may have agreed to privately. In the absence of agreement, a contested divorce may be stressful to the spouses and lead to expensive litigation. Less adversarial approaches to divorce settlements include mediation and collaborative divorce , which negotiate mutually acceptable resolution to conflicts.
Prior to the latter decades of the 20th century, a spouse seeking divorce in most states had to show a "fault" such as abandonment, cruelty, incurable mental illness , or adultery. Even in such cases, a divorce was barred in cases such as the suing spouse's procurement or connivance contributing to the fault, such as by arranging for adultery , condonation forgiving the fault either explicitly or by continuing to cohabit after knowing of it , or recrimination the suing spouse also being guilty.
Because divorce was considered to be against the public interest, civil courts refused to grant a divorce if evidence revealed any hint of complicity between the husband and wife to divorce, or if they attempted to manufacture grounds for a divorce. Divorce was granted only because one party to the marriage had violated a sacred vow to the "innocent spouse.
A number of strategems were devised to make divorce easier to obtain. Many towns provided accommodation, restaurants, bars and events centered on this trade. Supreme Court , in Williams v. North Carolina , ruled that other states had to recognize these divorces, under the " full faith and credit " clause of the Constitution.
By , the U. The prevalence of the practice is reflected in the song, " Haitian Divorce ," by Steely Dan. By the s, due to [ citation needed ] the emergence of second wave feminism , the use of collusive or deceptive practices to bypass the fault system had become a widespread concern, if not actually a widespread practice, and there was widespread agreement that something had to change.
The National Association of of Women Lawyers was instrumental in convincing the American Bar Association to help create a Family Law section in many state courts, and pushed strongly for no-fault divorce law around cf. Uniform Marriage and Divorce Act. In , California became the first U. The National Center for Health Statistics reports that from to in the US, in families with children present, wives file for divorce in approximately two-thirds of cases.
However, studies have shown that lower-income couples are currently more likely to get a divorce than higher-income couples. In fact, higher income couples' divorce rates are progressively decreasing since the s.
In , the Manhattan Supreme Court ruled that Ellanora Baidoo could serve her husband divorce papers through a Facebook message, and she became the first woman to legally serve her husband divorce papers via Facebook. Divorce in the U. The laws of the state s of residence at the time of divorce govern, not those of the location where the couple was married.
All states recognize divorces granted by any other state. All states impose a minimum time of residence, Nevada currently being the shortest at 6 weeks. All states allow no-fault divorce on grounds such as irreconcilable differences, irremediable breakdown, and loss of affection. Some states mandate a separation period before no-fault divorce. Mississippi, South Dakota and Tennessee are the only states that require mutual consent for no-fault divorce.
The rest of the states permit unilateral no-fault divorce. Since the mids, a few states have enacted covenant marriage laws, which allow couples to voluntarily make a divorce more difficult for themselves to obtain than usual. For example, couples who choose to undertake a covenant marriage may be required to undergo counseling before a divorce can be granted, or to submit their conflicts to mediation.
In states lacking such provisions, some couples sign contracts undertaking the same obligations. A summary or simple divorce, available in some jurisdictions, is used when spouses meet certain eligibility requirements, or can agree on key issues beforehand.
For example, in order to qualify for summary divorce in California, a couple must meet all of the following requirements:. Though divorce laws vary between jurisdiction , there are two basic approaches to divorce: Fault grounds, when available, are sometimes still sought. This may be done where it reduces the waiting period otherwise required, or possibly in hopes of affecting decisions related to a divorce, such as child custody, child support, alimony, and so on.
A court may still take into account the behavior of the parties when dividing property, debts, evaluating custody, and support. States vary in the admissibility of such evidence for those decisions. Under a no-fault divorce system the dissolution of a marriage does not require an allegation or proof of fault of either party.
Only three states Mississippi, South Dakota and Tennessee require mutual consent in Tennessee it is needed only in certain circumstances for a no-fault divorce to be granted. Fault divorces used to be the only way to break a marriage, and people who had differences, but did not qualify as "at fault", only had the option to separate and were prevented from legally remarrying. Comparative rectitude is a doctrine used to determine which spouse is more at fault when both spouses are guilty of breaches.
In the United States, the Federal Government does not have the authority to issue a divorce. The state has the only authority over issuing accepting a marriage, and issuing a divorce. This creates the question of which state can you get divorced in? All states have rules for jurisdiction, which is typically a time frame the person filing the divorce has lived in the state. Some states require twelve months and some states, like Nevada, only require six weeks.
Without proper jurisdiction a state cannot issue a divorce. States vary in their rules for division of assets in a divorce. The major difference is between states that use a community property system and states that do not. In community property states, community property belongs to the spouses equally. Arizona, California, Idaho, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin.
Alaskan law gives couples the option to create community property by written agreement. Most community property states start with the presumption that community assets will be divided equally, whereas "equitable distribution" states presume fairness may dictate more or less than half of the assets will be awarded to one spouse or the other. Commonly, assets acquired before marriage are considered individual, and assets acquired after, marital.
Depending on the state, an equitable or equal division of assets is then sought. In some states, educational degrees earned during the marriage may be considered marital property. In such states, a resolution of the divorce will often entail payment from the educated spouse to the other spouse a share of their expected future earnings that are due to a degree they earned during the marriage,  and may require the expertise of labor economists or other statistical and financial experts.
Alimony , also known as 'maintenance' or 'spousal support' is still being granted in many cases, especially in longer term marriages. Alimony is more likely in cases where a spouse has remedial needs that must be met in order for the spouse to become fully employable, for example that one spouse gave up career opportunities or development in order to devote themselves to the family. In cases involving children, governments have a pressing interest in ensuring that disputes between parents do not spill over into the family courts.
All states now require parents to file a parenting plan , or to decide on custody and visitation either by reaching a written agreement or in a court hearing, when they legally separate or divorce. The spouse given custody or the spouse with the greater share of residence time in the case of joint custody , may receive assets to compensate their greater child-care expenses.
Collaborative divorce is becoming a popular method for divorcing couples to come to agreement on divorce issues. The parties are empowered to make their own decisions based on their own needs and interests, but with complete information and full professional support.
Once the collaborative divorce starts, the lawyers are disqualified from representing the parties in a contested legal proceeding, should the collaborative law process end prematurely.
Most attorneys who practice collaborative divorce claim that it can be substantially less expensive than other divorce methods regular divorce or mediation. However, should the parties not reach any agreements, any documents or information exchanged during the collaborative process cannot later be used in further legal proceedings, as the collaborative process is confidential proceedings.
Furthermore, there are no set enforceable time lines for completion of a divorce using collaborative divorce. Divorce mediation is an alternative to traditional divorce litigation. At the end of the mediation process, the separating parties will have typically developed a tailored divorce agreement that they can submit to the court. Parties to mediation do not need to retain attorneys. However, if the parties choose to retain attorneys their attorneys may be included in the mediation session.
The mediator can provide both parties with information but will not offer advice to either. Divorce mediators may be attorneys, mental health professionals, or financial experts who have experience in divorce cases.
Divorce mediation can be significantly less expensive than litigation. The adherence rate to mediated agreements is much higher than that of adherence to court orders. Many states allow for couples to file for a summary divorce based upon a jointly filed divorce petition. A summary divorce means the spouses have discussed the terms required by state law to issue a divorce and they have reached an mutual agreement. Almost, every state allow for this type of "uncontested" divorce.
Since the s, federal legislation has been enacted affecting the rights and responsibilities of divorcing spouses. For example, federal welfare reform mandated the creation of child support guidelines in all 50 states in the s.
ERISA includes provisions for the division of qualified retirement accounts between divorcing spouses. The IRS established rules on ignoring alimony as a source of taxable income. Federal bankruptcy laws prohibit discharging in bankruptcy of alimony and child support obligations. COBRA allows a divorced spouse to obtain and maintain health insurance. According to a study published in the American Law and Economics Review, women file slightly more than two-thirds of divorce cases in the US.
In their study titled "Child Custody Policies and Divorce Rates in the US," Kuhn and Guidubaldi find it reasonable to conclude that women anticipate advantages to being single, rather than remaining married. States whose family law policies, statutes, or judicial practice encourage joint custody have shown a greater decline in their divorce rates than those that favor sole custody.
However it is also used in common parlance to refer to the likelihood of a given marriage ending in divorce as opposed to the death of a spouse. It is commonly claimed that half of all marriages in the United States eventually end in divorce, an estimate possibly based on the fact that in any given year, the number of marriages is about twice the number of divorces.
Variables that may affect rates of divorce include: A study by Jenifer L. Bratter and Rosalind B.