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One of those is height… and there are few other aspects that cause men as much dating agita as being short. The thing is, as with many other masculine insecurities, this is predominantly in our heads. The trick is understanding how to make height less of an issue. Seem like a tall order 1. One of the worst things that guys can do to themselves is to get defensive about being short.
Look, I get it: I completely sympathize with it. It bleeds into your body language and into the way you talk and relate to others. A shitty attitude, whether angry and aggressive or defeated and negative, will nuke any chance of sex or love faster than telling them that you eat live puppies. Is height an attractive feature? Yes, some people find height attractive. The more you let your height or lack thereof bother you, the less attractive you get.
A short man with confidence is far more attractive than a tall guy without it. One of the best things you can do — especially as a short man — is to develop your sense of presence. OK, before you click the back button in disgust, hear me out. One of the reasons I tend to be remembered as being taller than I actually am is that I dress in such a way that flatters my physique and gives a more unified silhouette. One of the biggest mistakes that men make is to wear clothing with a strong contrast — a white shirt, brown belt and blue jeans for example.
The problem with this is that the sudden color change — from white to brown to blue — creates a visual interruption. This is one of the benefits of suits — the uniform color scheme helps create a unified silhouette. Similarly, vertical patterns and stripes will help direct the eye in the ways you want.
The old saw about how vertical stripes is based on this idea. Even subtle patterns in the fabric, such as herringbone weaves, can help you slim your visual profile and make you seem taller. Straight-leg jeans, slim-fitting tees, fitted dress shirts… these are all your friends when it comes to creating the illusion of height. Clothes that are cut close create a smother, sleeker silhouette which minimizes the visual cues that subtly imply a lack of stature. Yes, you may love your relaxed fit jeans but trust me: But what about artificial height-extenders such as boots or lifts?
But at the same time… well, those shoes had to come off eventually and the women noticed that suddenly I was at boob-level instead of eye-level. One of the great things about online dating is also one of the biggest problems with online dating: The cold hard truth is that short men may want to make online dating less of a priority when it comes to meeting people. But recognize that when you meet people in person, you have more of a chance to impress women with your wit, personality and charm — all of which works out to your advantage in the long run.
Yeah, it kind of sucks. There will be some women who are especially vocal about it, and that can sting too. But you have to ask yourself: Yes, that can hurt but come on: Why, in pluperfect hell, are you worried about what an asshole thinks? So who should you approach? One of the first things you should consider is dating women close to your own height. The less of the difference in height, the less of an issue it tends to be.
Women have absorbed them as well. Even men who are of relatively equal height may find tall women less attractive. They want to find someone who can appreciate them, who sees their value instead of weighing them against social rubric and gender roles. And women will respond to that. Bringing your best, most charming and confident self is the greatest dating advantage of all. This advice basically also applies to fat people. Well, the last 3 do at least.
Avoid online dating, dress better, and date the right people. Although, if the point of dating and approaching isn't in some way to weed out the people who you shouldn't date, I'll eat my hat, because that's exactly how I rationalise being rejected. I've never had much faith in the whole "fake confidence" thing.
I just can't get past the fact it's fake and it does nothing to help me feel more confident. Personal hangups aside though, it may help others, I just have little stock in it myself. I think the idea is that it should not be fake. Confidence and physical presence tend to be the biggest differences on first sight there are bigger ones once you get to know them better.
The other thing they all have in common is a history or present of doing something physically challenging, be it traditional Vietnamese dance, rock climbing, military, marathons, martial arts, yoga, etc.. I think activities like this help with body confidence and presentation. I know, I'm hard on the weight thing, but it's a big sticking point for me.
Well, one of many, but that's beside the point. My issue is more with this idea that you can just fake confidence as DNL suggests frequently and if you believe in it hard enough, it will come true. I can just never get past that fact, because it's never worked for me. That was more what I meant. Actually a few of them are rather heavy.
They mostly had a history of doing something that taught physical control and a few are just bigger fit men. The biggest problem with fake confidence is if you cannot, with practice, make it true confidence. After a while and many missteps that taught me the worst case scenarios are survivable, the fake confidence turned into true confidence. That is what DNL is advocating.
I'm not really able to make it true confidence, which is probably why it didn't work for me. I think it can also be useful as a tool to get yourself doing things that you wouldn't otherwise do. If you pretend you're confident, and that gets you talking to people, doing public speaking, dancing in public or whatever else lack of confidence has kept you from doing, that can be valuable in itself.
Even if the confidence was fake, the things you do while pretending are real. I dunno, it's not confidence that stops me from doing things, it's indifference or lack of interest, depending. Confidence didn't convince me to start painting mini's or organizing a board game night, it was a lack of interest or funds to really get into either hobby.
I'm doing both now, but confidence wasn't a factor. I have some pretty bad social anxiety and so I am faking most of the confidence I seem to have. My problem is that I am also an extrovert and I love being around people. So it's being miserable and lonely, or being social and terrified for me. I've learned how to act confident and happy and un-terrified until I can calm down enough to be actually comfortable.
Doing that has taught my high-strung and extremely annoying nervous system that I will survive the encounter, no matter how scared I am in the moment. It's given me coping mechanisms to calm down. Basically, I've taught my nervous system that I'm ok, I can deal and I can get myself through whatever it is. So it can work. You just need to invest time and energy into it.
I'm certainly never getting rid of the anxiety. I think you are right actually. Confidence can't be understood just by faking. The idea that you are supposed to pretend feeling alright and then, by the feedback you pick up from others, you'd suddenly reasess yourself and feel alright for real. I'm sure it has happened to people but as a general recommendation, it's shaky.
I don't like the pep-talk books because they imply social hierarchy and competition that you're supposedly going to excel at by feeling super special about yourself.
Capitalist liberalist shit IMO. I don't believe it works that way. I think what needs to be done instead is to accept some base truths. You got to accept that you are equal to others. We are all good enough or suck equally, depending on how you look on it. And because of that, you don't have to cover up your weak sides, you don't have to act in a way that seems foreign to you, and you don't need to fear people being critical about you.
If they are, you can cooly judge if they got a point or if their criticism is ridiculous. You never have to be embarassed about being less read, dressed, paid, physically gifted or fucked. Because you are an equal, you can be honest about it. You're not afraid of "embarassments" or being judged on superficial grounds. Of course, it doesn't mean you won't make an effort to charm people and try not to put them off.
It's just that you're not going to care all that much if your tongue slips up or if you turn up with the wrong hat on your head.
Just migitate the "damage" and reassess your approach a little.